The Way of Undoing,
the very heart of all authentic spiritual paths, is the true way to God
and spiritual liberation. Though it is nothing new, it has commonly been
overlooked or avoided by spiritual aspirants. Usually, seekers devote
their lives to other, less relevant disciplines (such as rituals, blind
faith beliefs, and spiritual techniques), and fail to submit
wholeheartedly to the great purpose of spiritual life -- the Undoing of
ego. Spiritual practices can be helpful. But, the Undoing of ego remains
the single, indispensable prerequisite for living an enlightened, Godly
life -- the Life Divine.
Real spiritual life is about the Undoing of ego. It's NOT about getting
what you want, solving your earthly problems, etc. If that's what you want
from spiritual life, read no further, because this is not for you. It is
for those who at least suspect that the search for personal benefit is
exactly what's WRONG with life -- both practical life AND spiritual life.
We must beat the addiction to self-orientation in order to live in the
Spirit. Then and ONLY then can we be SPIRITUALLY fulfilled. Then and ONLY
then can we function as true servants of God, and as channels of Divine
Love. Why? Because ego stands DIRECTLY in the way of all that is good and
Godly. Ego's presumptions of separation and difference keep us alienated
from each other, God, and direct experience of spiritual reality.
If you want an alternative to the problems and pitfalls of separate,
selfish living, real spirituality is it. But make no mistake about what
real spirituality is: it is the Undoing of ego. YOUR ego. No more, no
less. And it will always be that. That's the truth. If you want to be
liberated from ego, get ready to face the ego squarely, and read on...
The root of all evil
Fortunately, most people understand, at least intellectually, selfishness
is the root of all evil. We recognize the terrible social and personal
problems caused by gross manifestations of egotism -- anger, addictive
attachment, neurotic aversion, etc. Unfortunately, hardly anyone
appreciates the true depth and extent of the problem. Gross egotism is
only the most easily recognized symptom of a deeper disease. Meanwhile,
every day, far subtler expressions of ego destroy emotional and spiritual
health.
Why don't we enjoy the freedom, unity, love, and
lovingness we dream of? SELF-PROTECTIVENESS ruins love. STINGINESS limits
giving. HYPER-CONTROL prevents surrender. PRIDE cometh before the fall.
Almost all achievements and joys of a sublime nature are routinely aborted
by aspects of ego -- aspects of ego that are, in this day and age,
overlooked, accepted -- even FASHIONABLE.
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Our selfish little world
In this world, self-centered, live-for-number-one values have become the
prevailing philosophy of life. Everywhere you turn, you see the blind
pursuit of selfish gains. People are actually surprised -- and perhaps
suspicious -- when anyone acts OTHER than in their own self-interest.
But that's only in everyday, material life, right? WRONG! Religion and
so-called spirituality have become, for the vast majority of people, just
another means to achieve selfish goals. Don't believe it? Read on...
The new, selfish spirituality
In recent times, in response to public demand, almost every religion has
been adapted to serve selfish purposes. All over the world, spiritual
sources -- teachers, ministers, self-help authors, alternative healers --
have adapted their sales pitch to appeal to the selfish interests of
spiritual seekers.
"Hand all your problems to Jesus; he will solve
them all."
"Come to this retreat and receive spiritual empowerments -- only a
hundred dollars."
"This meditation technique will open your chakras and clear your
aura."
The result? A warm fuzzy spirituality that pampers the weak, accommodates
the lazy, and offers sometimes even miraculous profits to the greedy. This
consoling spirituality makes virtually NO demands on the faithful, for
fear the "faithful" will run away!
But people-pleasing spiritual leaders can't take all the blame for leading
the public astray. Spiritual seekers themselves are quick to misinterpret
the most ego-confronting spiritual truths in ego-friendly ways. For
example, "Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven" is routinely used
to justify the narcissistic pursuit of self-improvement.
The true way is unequivocal on the need for self-surrender. Can there be
any mistake about statements like these?
How
do such uncompromising statements fit the me-oriented agenda of ego?
Obviously, they don't. And neither does TRUE spirituality. The usual
"me first" values stand in stark contrast to anything that could
truly be considered spiritual. Here's the way the me-oriented priorities
line up:
FIRST, I work to get what I NEED -- to survive
economically.
THEN, if there's any time or money left over, I'll pursue what I
WANT.
FINALLY, time and energy permitting, I MIGHT shoehorn in a little
spirituality -- but only if it promises to give me what I want.
And also, when it comes to spirituality...
I will avoid what challenges me. I will run
from anything spiritual that seriously questions my selfish ways of
thinking and living.
The big soul sellout
Self-serving spirituality is far LESS than useless. It perpetuates egotism
by distracting us from the real problem, while letting us think we are
actually solving it. When we believe spiritual salvation can be obtained
at a price LESS than giving up self-centrism, we make a "deal with
the devil." THAT little "bargain" costs soul fulfillment.
How tragic, that religion and so-called spirituality have become just
another self-improvement strategy. When we convert spirituality to a tool
of selfishness, we remove its ancient, essential, and eternal purpose: the
renunciation and transcendence of selfishness and ego. Then, the one thing
that should have saved us becomes yet another servant of our own downfall.
When spirituality joins the selfishness bandwagon, where's the safety net?
What will arrest our fall? Self help? Selfish prayers? Church? Not likely!
Would any truly spiritual teaching attempt to seduce
people with promises of pain relief, success, pleasure, and material
security? No! Sincerely consult any spiritual tradition, or just ask your
own conscience. You will hear one clear message: Real spiritual life is
not selfish -- it is ANTI-selfish. Though selfish pursuits may account for
almost the whole of most lives, self benefit has nothing to do with TRUE
spiritual life. Spirituality is about letting go of selfishness -- period!
Selfish saints?
Can you imagine any TRULY spiritual individual being selfish? Of course
not! Indeed, selfish evolution is a contradiction. Therefore, even the
attempts of a selfish person to become less selfish -- when those attempts
are still just reactions to the person's own perceived problem -- are
flawed at the root. And so are all activities that are based upon
self-effort, self-meditation, self-interest, self-improvement.
Self-centered living in any form -- even "spiritually" selfish
living -- opposes spiritual progress. As long as personal development is
the primary purpose of our existence, none of us can find spiritual
fulfillment.
Spiritual advancement isn't about personal fulfillment -- at least not in
the terms that ego thinks about fulfillment. Spiritual success bears no
resemblance to worldly success. Spirituality exists to SOLVE the problem
of ego, not to cater to it. It has nothing to do with self-interest, or
furthering (ego) self in any sense.
The true purpose of life
If we're living right, we're not living for OURSELVES. Happiness will come
as a result of right living, but only as a secondary effect. The rewards
of right living are not our appropriate concern. Clearly, being unselfish
is good for everyone -- including us. Surely God is pleased with that.
But, if our main REASON for being unselfish is our personal benefit, we're
not being unselfish -- we're being selfish. That's the paradox of right
living: The fact that it's good for us can't be the primary motivation and
still have it be RIGHT.
The true and rightful purpose of life is
self-transcending love and unselfed service. No one can ever love or serve
truly while living the life of ego. Ego is unalterably and consistently
opposed to real love and loving, and eternally afraid of giving. Love and
service are the reverse of the tendency to act in the name of lower
self-interest and ego-survival. Love, ecstasy, enlightenment -- anything
of spiritual value -- results ONLY from the transcendence of ego.
Therefore, spiritual advancement depends on the willingness to live beyond
ego.
On the way, in the way
Granted, it is HUMAN NATURE to want to improve your circumstances. It is
totally NATURAL to strive to reduce your suffering, your confusion, your
problems, your limitations. It is NATURAL to try to increase your safety,
your security, your comfort, your satisfaction, your convenience, your
knowledge, and your pleasure.
Our natural responses are built into our genetic, physical make up.
Therefore, we cannot be faulted for them. Nonetheless, a natural life of
unbridled tendency consists of little more than surrender to ego. In that
case, ego tells us what we can do and what we are not allowed to do. And,
what could be channeled through us, by God, is obstructed or co-opted.
YOU, as you (mis)understand
yourself to be, stand in the way of God acting through you freely.
Therefore, until and unless you allow ego to be Undone in you, you are
simply -- though perhaps unconsciously -- PREVENTING the flow of Divine
impulse into life. When it comes down to the actual choice points of
existence, you must TRANSCEND what is merely natural in order to become a
God-surrendered, loving person.
More ecstasy than
hair shirt
The True Way is not the easy way. The Pearl of Great Price was never meant
to be cheap. It is costly, at times painful, but whatever its price may
be, the rewards INFINITELY outweigh it. And despite all we've said about
the need for self-transcendence, the way of heaven is not a hair shirt
way. MISERABLE self-denial is simply ego's opinion of heaven; it's an
utter falsification of the Life Divine. Think about the most ecstatic
moments of your life: Every one of them was an experience of
self-transcendence.
The Divine design
The Way of Undoing is entirely different, and opposite to, the natural,
ego-driven form of human life. But happily, by Divine design, there is
more to us than ego and lower instincts. If there wasn't, we would never
tire of the natural life; we could never desire ego's Undoing. And there
IS life after ego death: REAL life, the Life Divine. Living beyond ego IS
life as God designs.
The very same spiritual realities that threaten the ego self, satisfy the
True Self. What chills self, thrills and fulfills Self. Where no ego can
be comfortable, the Spirit is completely at Home. Ecstatic even! Just as
much as self is separate and lonely and limited, Self -- the soul essence
of humanity, unsoiled by ego -- is one with God, one with humanity, and
truly free.
True freedom is not freedom to do whatever we want; true freedom is
freedom FROM what we, as egos, want. It is liberation from ego, no less!
When ego is released, the problem of self resolves into the realization of
Self -- our Divine spiritual reality.
What is unselfish?
What does an unselfish life look like?
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Unselfish is when the forms of aspiration are not
self-centered.
Unselfish is when the lower self, the mind, and all of its personal junk
and dreams and preferences have been renounced and thrown to the four
winds.
Unselfish is when you stand free of ego in all of its forms -- even the
so-called spiritual forms.
Unselfish is when you stop consulting your ego (and lower mind) about
everything.
Unselfish is when you are free to do what is right because it is right,
without concern for the personal consequences.
What is right action?
And what IS right action? The only right action is the action of love
freely given, for no purpose but the service of God and the benefit of
others. And that is the exact opposite of what the ego is always doing.
Right action will certainly not resemble the action the ego would have you
do, and why should it? If it did, it would not free anyone from ego!
The Pearl of Great Price: the best deal ever
The Way of Undoing is the essence of the true spiritual path that has
always been taught, and sometimes lived, throughout the ages. It is the
ever unpopular, supremely challenging, unfailing passage to eternal life
-- the Life Divine. If you want the Life Divine, God's Way is the only
way. God's Way IS the Undoing of ego.
A cosmic challenge for all humanity
This is God's cosmic challenge for all of us -- to convert from
selfishness to unselfishness!
Does that intimidate you? The true spiritual path threatens ego to the
core -- it runs directly against the ego's grain. But ultimately, if YOU
-- your spiritual Self -- can recognize ego as THE fundamental spiritual
problem, and if you can see that YOU have that problem, it's time to do
something different. Never mind any fears and difficulties involved.
The remainder of this area of the web site will chart this passage for
those intrepid spiritual travelers who not only wish, but also CHOOSE, to
follow it.